So what am I, exactly?

Every so often, I'll write about bdsm or fetish related things. I've noticed those are the most popular posts, for whatever that's worth. Regardless, one of the things that I often wonder about is where I fit. What am I? How do I identify myself, sexually speaking?

When I meet someone who seems to be or is transgendered, I like to ask them how they identify themselves. If someone identifies as male, I will use male pronouns for him. If she identifies as female, same thing.

That may be a bad example; I'm not transgendered. I identify as male. But what about other things?


Submissive
I identify as a sub. I am not submissive universally. In my regular life, I am not submissive. I tend to control a lot of things in my regular life. But regular life isn't sex I do not submit to anyone who comes along, and I refuse to accept any situation without limits or safe words. I like to be called slave, but if you identify that as someone without will of their own, then I am not that.
That said, I have 0 interest in being dominant. I am not a bottom. I am not someone who likes to submit sometimes. Sexually, I want to submit all the time, every time. I want to give up control. I do NOT want to take it. I don't want to be a smart assed sub, I don't want to top from the bottom. I want to enjoy what I do with people (that's the whole point of sexual activity), but I want to be the submissive. In a situation with multiple people, I want to be the most submissive; I don't want to be above someone else in the hierarchy.

Heteroflexible
I identify as heteroflexible. I have no experience with men, and only very rarely find men at all attractive. But I am open to the idea, flexible. I don't think I would ever swear off women, but I do accept the possibility that the right man could talk me into bed, or even a relationship. I'm not gay. I'm not straight. I don't think I can claim to be bisexual without any experience in the subject. Hence, heteroflexible.

Fetishist
I identify as having a number of fetishes. The primary one is for leather boots, but I have other, smaller fetishes as well. I consider them just as valid, though not my primary fetish. Most of them stem from that primary fetish, though (humiliation, for example).

Open Minded
I identify as being very open minded, particularly when it comes to kink. I don't like to judge people, if I can help it. Whatever you are interested in is fine; just don't expect me to be interested in it as well.

Curious
That said, I am very curious. I like to wrap my mind around things, try to understand how they work. When it comes to fetishes and bdsm, I want to understand it all. I want to at least be able to say "Okay, I can see why people like that" even if I don't like it myself. I try to come up with explanations, whether they be psychological, physiological or just plain sexual.

So, that's me. I'm a heteroflexible, open minded, curious submissive male.