Is Financial Domination a scam?

I've seen a good number of people advertising for financial domination, and I have to say, it has gotten me wondering. Could such a thing actually work, or is it just a scam, people taking advantage of gullible submissives for their own financial gain?

To answer that question, I think the best strategy is to try to develop a way that it COULD work. That is, in what situation would there be financial domination without anyone being taken advantage of?

Well, it seems to me like the major thing that matters with the fantasy of financial domination is the loss of control, the humiliation of it. Humiliation I can identify with.

A couple of old posts about boots

I was going through an older blog and decided that there were a few things I wanted to repost...

What do I like about boots?

It's a huge question. One that involves lots of meandering. So I figured I'd post it here.

It's a fetish. That's the long and short of it. I don't know why it's a fetish, but it is. All my life, when a girl (or guy) has been wearing boots, it has instantly made them more attractive to me. Boots are almost more important than any other feature (which is weird, since boots can be changed so easily).

So what am I, exactly?

Every so often, I'll write about bdsm or fetish related things. I've noticed those are the most popular posts, for whatever that's worth. Regardless, one of the things that I often wonder about is where I fit. What am I? How do I identify myself, sexually speaking?

When I meet someone who seems to be or is transgendered, I like to ask them how they identify themselves. If someone identifies as male, I will use male pronouns for him. If she identifies as female, same thing.

That may be a bad example; I'm not transgendered. I identify as male. But what about other things?

All or nothing thinking

When I was younger, my mother started making changes to her life. Not little changes, either. Huge sweeping changes, like divorcing my father or moving half way across the country and changing careers. Dad told me that it was 'All or nothing' thinking, that mom would decide that she was unhappy, and the only solution was to change everything.

Was he bitter? probably. I do need to take what he said with a grain of salt. But the principle has stuck with me, and I've always been worried when I start to change things in my life. Am I just depressed and trying to change everything, or is there real reason to do it?

The perfect job

There is a secret to happiness in life. Several of them, in fact. But the one that has always rang the truest for me is the one about how to find the perfect job.

The goal, essentially, is to find something that you love to do, and then find someone to pay you to do it. Or, more simply, to con someone into paying you to play.

We all have our own definitions of play. And that's fine. The idea is just to get paid to do it. Not everyone can manage that. How many people think of janitorial work as play? Or accounting? Or retail? Maybe some people do; I don't know. But there are probably some jobs that are just jobs, that people do because they need the money, and not because they love it (like telemarketing).

What makes a brilliant moron

People often ask me why I chose the moniker of Brilliant Moron. They ask why I call myself an idiot, and why I say I'm smart. To save time, I thought I would answer it all at once. In reverse order.

Why I say I'm smart
Well, because I am. I'm well educated (2 MAs and a PhD), but I'm also very clever. Unfortunately, there isn't really a way to MEASURE intelligence outside of education, and as you all know, I think education is a bad standard. You should only get as much education as you need.

BDSM, self destruction, and the stupidity of labels

I've seen a whole lot lately of people accusing one another of being 'fake' or of not being a 'true' submissive/dominant/whatever based on what that person is interested in. This is not a new phenomena, but it saddens me.

If I can get meta for just a second... I'd like to remind everyone that we are a subculture. We are a group that is looked down upon, that is marginalized and seen as 'other'; even outside of the simple sexual preferences, those of us who identify as 'kinky' are different. And unlike being simply queer, we can't exactly come out of the closet.